Life Changes.

Sometimes when you are in a dark place, you think you’ve been buried, but you’ve actually been planted. ~ Unknown

A few days ago I was reflecting on how much my life has changed over the last few months. Things which used to be high on my priority list, have lost their importance with a new set of priorities emerging to fill their space. A diagnosis of breast cancer, while not necessarily a death sentence, has evoked a shift of mindset as I search for a sense of purpose and meaning for my life.

I have discovered several things on my journey down this new path:

A Source of Inspiration.
Many people ask how I can remain so positive and upbeat about my diagnosis. Years ago when a high school friend was diagnosed with breast cancer, her doctor told her she had six months to live. Instead of being paralyzed by the news, Katrina sat down and created a list of things she wanted to accomplish, including seeing her daughter graduate from Harvard (she was a freshman at the time) and reuniting our high school graduation class, most of whom had drifted apart over the years. She contacted many of us, and word spread of the upcoming reunion in Jamaica, which she singlehandedly organized from California while undergoing numerous experimental treatments. Over 50 of our classmates from all over the world showed up and it was an overwhelming success.

Katrina accomplished every one of her goals and had to create a new list, before she died seven years after her diagnosis. The year she died, I formed a Relay for Life team in her honour, and our team of 30 persons raised over $100,000 towards Breast Cancer Research. Having seen what Katrina accomplished through sheer determination and grit, has inspired me to not lie down and wallow in misery, but to be positive, and hopefully inspire others the way she inspired me.

A New Family.
Breast Cancer survivors are a unique group of persons who have a wealth of strength and resilience which I have been blessed to experience first hand. I have been contacted by several survivors who have not been hesitant to provide me with support, advice and guidance. With this month being dedicated to Breast Cancer Awareness, I have seen and heard many stories of resilience and support which give me hope in the face of darkness.

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Who you are is more important that what you have.
It is funny how material things lose their importance when faced with your own mortality. There is nothing more valuable than your relationships with others. My relationship with God, family, friends, co-workers and even acquaintances supersede any physical possession I may have, or wish to acquire.

The importance of Diet and Exercise.
Some people have commented that if I (who lead such a healthy lifestyle with diet and exercise as an important focus) can get breast cancer, then why bother to live healthily? My answer is that I have no idea what would have happened had I not changed my diet and lifestyle four years ago. My recovery from two surgeries in what seems to be a remarkably short time span, I attribute to my body being in peak condition.

My journey of Life continues as I travel my new path with gratitude and plans to bloom wherever I am planted.

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The Glass is not Half Full. It is Refillable.

Since writing about my breast cancer diagnosis, I have been overwhelmed by positive responses, encouragement and well wishes from family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and even persons who have never met me. I am humbled and grateful for the support of each person who has rallied around me with prayers, positive thoughts and caring advice. I was deeply touched when a friend told me that she admired my attitude towards my diagnosis, indicating that for me the glass was not just half full, it was refillable. Those words led me to consider what exactly I would be refilling in my glass.

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Hope.
Maya Angelou once said that Hope and Fear cannot exist in the same space at the same time. You have to invite one to stay. I choose to fill my glass with Hope.

Purpose.
I strongly believe that my diagnosis at a time in my life when I have never been more healthy or fit, can send an important message that if it can happen to me, anyone is susceptible. My main reason for sharing my story was to encourage other women to do their mammograms, so should they find themselves in a similar situation, they will receive an early diagnosis, giving them a greater chance of full recovery. Since my last blog was posted, ten ladies have indicated that they plan to get their mammograms done, with one already completed. A male friend has also said he plans to have his prostate checked as soon as possible. I hope there are many others also planning to take preventive action.

Goals.
There are many goals I would like to achieve in my life: places to visit, races to complete, photography books to publish, hiking challenges to embark upon and new skills to learn. Some people would call this a bucket list but I consider this to be my glass filling list.

Prayers.
The most overwhelming response I have received is the multitude of prayers offered as groups of prayer warriors, family, friends and strangers have taken on my case as if it were their personal mission to ensure my complete recovery. There will always be room in my glass for prayer, not just for me, but also for all those desperate for prayers in their time of need.

There is one thing of which I am certain: My glass runneth over and over and over.

Overcoming Obstacles: Give up…or Get up?

“Obstacles are like steps, when you overcome them, you go higher.” ~ Terry Mark

Sticking to any diet and exercise plan is never easy.  There were many times I would feel that trying to be fit and healthy was too hard.

It was hard to stick to my diet when people would be having their cake and eating it too…right in front of me.

It was hard to get up before 5am to exercise when everyone else in my house was fast asleep.

It was hard to go to a restaurant and order chicken broth, salad with no fat (or low fat) dressing along with a glass of water, when the rest of the table was indulging in rice and peas and fried chicken, doused in gravy.

And it was hard to spend an hour on meal preparation for the next day when I could be on the couch watching “Scandal” or doing some online shopping for things I wouldn’t really be using anyway.

I remained motivated by doing several things:

  • Focused on my REASON: I kept my photos when I weighed the most nearby, so I would remember why I was doing this in the first place;

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  • Set a series of small GOALS: (such as fitting into a dress one size smaller), then rewarding myself (buying a dress in the new smaller size) when achieving each goal;

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  • Focused on the REWARD: As I grew to love exercise, my reward could actually be an extra half hour at the gym (which helped me to reach my ultimate goal. 🙂 )
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The most important thing to remember is that a setback doesn’t need to be permanent. Family and friends provided core support during some of my weakest moments. So, find and build your support system, which will make your journey an easier one.

Would you prefer to give up…or get up?