For it is in giving that we receive. ~ St. Francis of Assisi
Christmas has always been my favorite time of year. I love decorating the house (and every bush and tree nearby); buying the right gift for each friend and family member; eating Christmas pudding and drinking sorrel; gathering with friends and family; the smell of the Christmas tree and baking permeating the house; the endless Christmas carols floating through the air (sometimes as early as September), and going to Church to reminisce and give thanks for the original Christmas.
While it is nice to receive gifts at Christmas, it also seems to be a time that people become kinder, gentler and more compassionate towards one another. My experience this year, however, has shown me that it is not only at Christmas that people give, and there are many more gifts I have received than those that are prettily wrapped and placed under a tree. These gifts include:
A listening ear.
I have received many phone calls, text or WhatsApp messages from friends and even acquaintances asking how I am doing now. As simple as this may seem, the volume of these calls and messages have indicated to me that many people do care, which has been very heartening. I am more than willing to reassure persons that I am fine and to dispel any myths that persons with cancer are always sick and in pain, as this has not been my experience.
A helping hand.
While I can still do most things I did before my diagnosis and subsequent surgeries, offers to take me to Chemotherapy treatments, to pick up my daughter from school, and to take me to events that I may not want to go to alone, are more valuable to me than the most expensive piece of jewelry. I recently ran the Reggae Marathon 10k, and while I was happy to complete the race, I was more overwhelmed by the volume of congratulatory messages, and the number of persons who supported me in this endeavor.
Sometimes a ten-minute visit can lift my spirits for an entire week. The fact that in this day of instant messaging, face to face visits seem more to be a thing of the past, increases the value of that visit when someone takes the time to come and see you. I truly appreciate all those persons who made the trek up my mountain, no matter how short the visit.
Although it may seem that I am always positive, (and 97 percent of the time, I am) there are occasional days when I drag my feet as I struggle to withstand the onslaught of self pity which threatens to rear its ugly head. It is at these times, your patience and understanding that my sharp words or morose demeanor are merely temporary, help me to overcome this challenge.
The amount of persons who have indicated they are praying for me, has been astounding. Not only family and friends, but also acquaintances and persons who have never even met me, continue to keep me in their prayers. If prayers really lift you up, I am somewhere near the Moon by now.
The remarkable thing about giving these gifts, is that in giving them, we can receive gifts in return. In spreading my story and encouraging women to get their mammograms done, to date over 30 persons have told me they have done so, of which two of my biggest supporters have found a suspicious early stage mass, which each one is dealing with. I continue to share my story in the hope that more persons will get tested and therefore encourage others to follow.
As Christmas comes this year, I wish you all Peace, Love, Joy, Good Health and the giving and receiving of gifts all year round.